The Birth Plan

It's true, there is a common belief among labor & delivery nurses and obstetricians that birth plans lead to the BIG ROOM, aka the operating room. While this stereotype is entirely unfair (as many stereotypes are), in their defense, I think it may be that a few women who "birth plan" sort of ruined it for the rest, by zealously typing up binders full of planning and structuring for their exact, idyllic birth.

The birth plan, theoretically makes sense. Planning in any situation usually makes that situation less stressful and more enjoyable. That's the funny thing about the birth plan - you can't! And birth often is more than idyllic without adhering to a plan.

The best way to "birth plan."

1) Prepare. Prepare for the unexpected. Labor will most likely begin at an unexpected moment. Pack ahead of time and have plans for different scenarios with work, transportation, and childcare (if needed). Tour the facility where you plan to give birth.
2) Communicate. Talk to your partner and your provider about what your preferences are for the birth. Ask your provider about what you expect and any protocols at the facility where you will give birth. A lot of your preferences may be what your provider already practices like skin to skin and not performing episotomies.
3) Trust. Trust your body and your ability to birth. Trust your provider to have your interests at heart. Trust your provider to take your preferences and make them happen whenever possible.
4) Be flexible. Plan to go with the flow
5) Relax and enjoy. As much as possible, try to relax and enjoy the birthing process.

Filling out a birth plan or a list of preferences can be a good way to go over your preferences with your provider.  In the birth setting, it can prevent you from having to constantly repeat yourself.   Keep it brief and relevant.